Sunday, 17 November 2013

Children First

Is it fair to abuse little girls like so, and push them to become sex objects?[/caption]

A view on the implication of politicisation of sexual behaviour/ orientation and its infringement on children's rights.


For whatever reason, I often find myself engaged in writing about taboo topics, very few willing to touch, and expressing "politically incorrect" views, no one willing to even ponder about, this article is just one of those. However, this article is not a condonation or justification of any form of discrimination or persecution against people with various sexual orientations or disorders, it is a mere expression of an opinion and sharing of concerns associated with promoting explicit sexual education amongst children and pressurising other societies to change their codes of ethics, thus destroying the cradle of child-protection, the family unit and the foundation of these societies.


As a mother and a grandmother with great love and devotion for children, as a human being with intense concern for children's welfare, and as Palestinian, with a deep rooted culture, in which FAMILY -not the individual, is the nucleus of society, I feel the need to drop my two cents on the issue of adult sexual behaviour and the need of child protection. Palestinian culture, being predominantly  Muslim, is in by large a culture of faith where believing in Creator, accepting that action have consequences and taking responsibility for people's own deeds sits at its heart. Most socio-dynamics in Islamic societies stems from that belief; starting with God-man relationship, ending with man-nature relationship, including all which is in-between. i.e. the boundaries of personal freedoms, and extents of responsibilities in the human-human relationship. Such traditional culture views society not as the sum of the individuals, as cells floating in a vacuum,  rather the very expanded social collective of families and extended families, the result is a neatly woven, well bonded social fabric, in which the welfare of the whole is understood to precede that of the individual. At the heart of such societies the concept of "All mankind are born free but OUR FREEDOM ENDS WHEN THE FREEDOM OF OTHERS BEGINS". Such culture puts very strong emphasis on the rule of traditional family in the upbringing, welfare, health and protection of its children (the nucleus family ; consisting of mother and father, and the extended consisting of relatives swell as neighbours and friends) Is it not only reasonable then to assume that any ideology or practices which prioritize the INDIVIDUAL might not fulfil the needs of a deeply religious, family oriented and tightly woven society? If Muslims choose freely to have some restriction upon themselves (like modest dress code, abstinence from consuming alcohol or self-discipline in sexual behaviour) in order to create a more attentive and more protective, more family oriented atmosphere for the sake of its most vulnerable members, namely children, what harm is there in that? If the support for human rights in Palestine or elsewhere in the world is conditional and dependent on the People denouncing their religion, cultural heritage, and social traditions and adopting new sets of social behaviour alien to them, which only mirrors that of the West; consequently denying them a most basic human right, the right to think, and live within a specific ethical code and legal system of their own choice. The East have different history and different experiences, different perspective on existential issue and different views of the world. It has different social structures, different ways of dealings with it's social wells and of healing its ills, thus it is nonsensical and rather presumptuous to assume that East and West share exactly the same problems, thus need the same solutions! TRANSFERRING the PROBLEMS of the West on the East, then JUXTAPOSING the SAME SOLUTIONS on the East is rather shortsighted and very condescending, IMHO. Trying to standardise and sum up humanity in the form of Western civilisation is a grave mistake. We can’t simply assume that what is good and right for the western culture is the norm, nor we can accept that it is superior to that of other cultures, and for me this is a BASIC HUMAN RIGHT. The Muslim world has suffered enormously from colonial imperialism, military and economic occupation, we are longing for FREEDOM, but the freedom that we long most for is the FREEDOM of THOUGHT. We have to come to common grounds of accepting that each culture and civilization has its own structure that depends very much on a huge heritage and millennia of accumulated experiences, understanding this and respecting it is vital for the future peaceful existence of human race.

Now, coming to the topic of homosexuality:

I don't think it is my business, or anyone's business for that matter to know what people do in their bedrooms, or to be exposed to such private matter, let alone be asked to support, object to , demonstrate for, or celebrate what people do in the privacy of their own homes. However, like every issue in the world, people are entitled to express an opinion or to have personal views on it, such views should not be considered as persecution, infringement, or  violation of the human rights of homosexuals.

For me personally, what makes me cringe about this issue :

it is the deliberate forceful insertion and  the politicisation of a private intimate bedroom act , pushing it to become one pivotal item on the global political agenda and one major factor in determining the "progressiveness" and "liberality" of any one political group, It is the premature relentless enforcement of sex education about adult sexual behaviour, on very small innocent kindergarten children as young as five, in the name of defending and promoting LGBT rights, It is  coercion, intimidation and imposition for the promoting and celebrating of a minority group's sexual behaviour on poor countries in exchange of aid and traditional societies under the pretext of "liberalism", even if it was against the will and welfare of those societies, It is the unfathomable defence and glorification and campaigning for the "rights" of convicted sexual predators and child abusers when they face courts of justice for their criminal molestation of children. (That does not necessity mean that I approve of such type of punishment, however I strongly disapprove of letting child molesters escape justice and roam freely, hurting ever more children). It is the use of the same methods of "activism" in which they managed to legalize and normalize what used to be classified as a sexual disorder, some are using their experience and "activism" to trivialiselegalise and normalise the molestation of innocent children. Enough to examine some of the names behind such movements, one cannot fail to notice that gay activists play key role in such promotion. For example political activist and historian of the gay rights movement and former president of  Gay Activists Alliance namely  David Thorstad was the founder of North American Man/Boy Love Association (NAMBLA) . .


 All the above should raise red flags in any decent person's head, it should ring bells of alarm and concern to those who cares about children' welfare and wellbeing.

Is this FREEDOM, or SLAVERY?[/caption] I see so much contradiction in dealing with these issues in Western societies: Encouraging children to be sexually aware, educated and active as young as possible, yet pretending to want to protect them from sexual abuse. Campaigning for human rights of one group yet being ever so quiet about other groups of similar tendencies. Trying to shelter children from abuse yet see nothing wrong in putting them in a situation where they might be emotionally, mentally and psychologically abused. Allow me here to storm your brains by throwing out some questions: Homosexuality is what it is, a sexual orientation, like any other, so why make it into a defining identity? Why should people be defined by such a narrow aspect of their behaviour, done in the privacy of their own bedrooms? Why should the rest of mankind -including their young ones, engage in promoting and celebrating the sexual act of some of its members? Why should humanity be split into two categories : hetro, homo, thus identified by such limiting and insignificant parameters? Can we tell how civilized a county is by the size of its pride parades? Is civility and respect of human rights measured by its celebration of how fast growing its homosexual population? Can we define humanity by those who love to sleep on their backs and those who prefer sleeping on their sides or tommies? Can we start having "Pride Parades" for left handed people, or for people who prefer using coloured tissue-paper in the bathroom, rather than the common white, for they too are minorities? Do the words "WE DO NOT CARE ABOUT WHAT OTHERS DO BEHIND DOORS IN THEIR BEDROOMS" mean anything to anybody? If this zealous support of homosexuality is all about human rights, why do people in the west favour to defend the human rights of homosexuals yet they are not so keen on the human right of: Paraphilias: Exhibitionism, Fetishism, incest, Frotteurism, Zoophilia, Mysophilia Necrophilia, Troilism, Coprophilia, Masochism, Sadism, Transvestitism, and Voyeurism? All the above display "less-common" sexual behaviours. Just like homosexuals, they too can not control the impulses and desires they feel, and they are only sexually fulfilled in their own different way, so should they be invited to schools to "educate" children about their sexual peculiarities? Should humanity celebrate a week "pride parade" for each and every sexual orientation or deviation there is? Why are the above –unlike homosexuals- still seen as sexual disorders  and given medical advice when needed? Why are they –unlike homosexuals- given medical advice and psychological treatment instead of being accepted as they are? Why are they forced by society to suppress their feelings and "live miserably" instead of promoting and celebrating their sexual habits in public? Who can define sexual disorder, or “normal” and “abnormal”, who is allowed to vote? Who has the right to draw the lines? Why is it that those who view homosexuality as a disorder are condemned and accused of being homophobes? Do exhibitionists have the right to fulfill their desires by imposing their nudity on society? Whose rights come first exhibitionists or society and its children? What about Zoophilia (people who are attracted to animals) or Necrophilia (gratification by having sexual contact with dead bodies)? Is a man entitled to marry a dog, a corpse, or a woman’s underwear in church? Why are such individuals not allowed to promote their sexuality, teach children about it and celebrate it publicly? Is it appropriate and healthy to have children reading stories titled "My daddy John and my mummy black & red underwear"? or "My daddy Harry and my mummy mountain goat"? Will there be human right groups calling for the right of those people to get married and adopt children? After all this person is only expressing his love and is harming no one in the process? Are we sure that teaching very small children all this intimate adult materials would have no negative effect on their emotional, psychological and mental state? It is clear that with paedophilia children’s rights are violated, because they are unable to give their consent as they are immature, vulnerable and unable to make good judgement. But why are we seeing individuals and groups trying to legalise and normalise such criminal activities? Who can decide who is a child then? Who can say who is a child? Who can define age of consent? Is a 16 year-old a child? Is 12, 13, 14, 15 year-old a child? Why then girls and boys as young as 12 are – by law- given contraceptive on demand? Is it ok for children to have sexual relations with mates of similar age or a few years older? How many years difference is deemed acceptable? What age difference makes the relationship unlawful and wrong (Paedophiliac)? Who can regulate and have the say on this? What about the rights of adopted children, what effect will have on their psychological health, having two mums or two dads, and not knowing their biological parents? Nowadays, where exactly is the persecution of homosexuals in the west, where is the abuse of their yuma rights? Where is it all heading? Is there an end to how far humanity would go in its abuse of children in order to gravitate its most primitive behaviour? Is expressing an opinion considered "infringement on rights"? Moreover, why impose on the rest of the world, Western definitions, Western values, Western problems, and inflict Western solutions upon them? Isn't that yet another form of imperialism, i.e thought imperialism? If Western countries along with gay-rights "activists" are so keen to help other "undeveloped" societies into "progress", wouldn't their help be much more appreciated when it gives the other the freedom they desire in devising their own social structure and the respect they deserve in choosing ethical codes of their own? 1239872_10151941433643185_1248239448_n
They may never have experienced the so called "freedom" of having relationships
outside the frame of marriage, but they are committed, faithful and content[/caption] Wouldn't be more modest to learn about other cultures, how they function, how their people interact, and how they solve problems, resolve conflicts and deal with disagreements, before thinking of exporting ideas, educating their children and imposing solutions to imaginary problems? Do we have sufficient knowledge as to the effect of early exposure to certain explicit sexual materials or behaviour might have on little one? Who have the right to decide what is appropriate, descent, acceptable exposure for children? How do you feel if in other societies, majority of its citizens view homosexuality as a disorder? In societies where the welfare of the whole is much important than the individual, who are encouraged to practice self restraint, sacrifice, and altruism, rather than pursuing selfish fulfilment and egoism, if they willingly give up some desires in order to keep a healthy society and less traumatized children; why the obsession with imposing change? If some societies cherish family unit as foundations of a healthy society, protection, care and commitment as the finest expression of love, thus producing a socially cohesive and healthy society, where the weak is looked after and the needy is provided for, why attempting to replace it with failed experiments as documented in their own societies, where family unites are disintegrating and individualism is eating the fabric of their own societies away? Now, is the issue of promoting and celebrating homosexuality (again, I reiterate, a private act which should not be anyone's business)  related to the Palestinian struggle for Liberation? Are we obliged to start teaching our young Palestinian boys and girls and LGBT as to be "accepted" as being a "progressive" society worthy of support? Are we obliged to start competing with"Israel" which prides itself of being gay heaven in order for our supporters to be satisfied? Just like attempting to tie our Palestinian struggle for liberation with causes which only distracts us from focusing on our goals and deplete our energies, like "fighting antisemitism", "holocaust denial", or "conspiracy theories", pretending that this is the way for Palestine liberation, we refuse the imposition and the premises that the issue of "homosexuality is central to our cause", urgent to deal with in our community, or that it the most burning issue in our quest for justice and freedom. Moreover, this issue should be left to the Palestinians and other societies to examine, discuss and deal with, in its own time and in accordance with its own ethics and what is best for those societies. We refuse to be distracted and our aims obscured by side issues while we struggle for survival facing threats of genocidal magnitude. has no weight a It is more humanly decent and respectable to let various societies exercise their rights of freedom of thought, by following ethical code of their own choice and without manufacturing artificial consent imposed upon them by donor countries or any other pressure group. [caption id="attachment_7206" align="aligncenter" width="468"]1238770_619920118030233_1656407432_n copy
They may be struck with extreme poverty, but they are protective of one another
They are bonded with love and commitment[/caption] My fear is that all this promotion and disproportionate importance given to homosexuality, would be used as the first crack in the foundational rock of human ethics which took mankind millennia of evolution and slow progress in order to fine-tune a complex and refined moral systems founded on justice and compassion, thus followed by all sorts of behaviours; child molesting, beastality, and incest would cause total regression and collapse of nucleus family units bringing us back to stone age. If prematurely and inappropriately and for selfish reasons, children are to exposed to all these types of adult sexual behaviour, are we not allowed to cry then, where is the their safety and protection? Isn't all this direct infringement on children's right? 1012419_485433951539421_1843113735_n
The wonders of purity and innocence of childhood is precious
Do not take it away[/caption] Conclusion It is more humanly decent and respectable to let children be children, do not rob them of their purity and childhood. Children are not meant to be exposed to concepts, images, words or acts which they are not ready for. Allow them time to enjoy being young and innocent and carefree, without having to be burdened with adult stuff. Allow them to grow up and mature in their own time. Allow them to play without concern, to run light heartedly and to laugh loudly when they slide or use a swing. Allow them to BE.
Give them protection
Allow them to play
Allow them to jump and run
Allow them to have fun
Allow them freedom to BE[/caption] Disclaimer: This article is not a condonation or justification of any form of discrimination or persecution against people with various sexual orientations or disorders, it is a mere expression of an opinion and sharing of concerns associated with promoting explicit sexual education amongst children and pressurising other societies to change their codes of ethics, thus destroying the cradle of child-protection, the family unit and the foundation of these societies.